My friend lives in a world by himself.
Sometimes, he lets me join him.
Sometimes, he doesn’t.

My friend is like the sun.
Sometimes, he shines.
Sometimes, he disappears to a place I can’t see.

My friend is like a puppy dog.
Sometimes, he listens to what I say.
Sometimes, he just doesn’t understand.

My friend is like Abraham Lincoln.
Sometimes, people are amazed by his honesty.
Sometimes, they are angered by it.

My friend is like an Encyclopedia.
Sometimes, all his knowledge is very impressive.
Sometimes, I get bored and want to put him aside.

My friend lives in a world by himself.
Sometimes, I invite him to join my world.
Sometimes, he joins for awhile.

Scales for Describing Behavior

If you haven’t heard of the book The Incredible 5-Point Scale by Kari Dunn Baron and Mitzi Curtis, you are missing an important piece of information - These authors have created a most wonderful concept. What is it?

Define the behavior, the feeling, the volume, etc., in 5 point increments. Place the description of each of the 5 items on a scale. The child can see where he/she is (or can be told by someone observing the child) and then, if need be, alter his/her behavior in one direction or another.

I have posted some scales I created based this concept, but really, your imagination is the limit. Each level of behavior has an appropriate time and an inappropriate time. So for instance, a loud volume is perfect acceptable and good in some situations, but not in others. The same can be said for a quiet volume. The Baron/Curtis book goes into much more detail. If you want the child to connect feelings with behaviors with solutions, it is definitely the book to buy.

When I work on these scales with my students, I spend a long time teaching them and providing models and examples before I have them demonstrate. The social response scales can be difficult to learn and even more difficult to apply. Be patient but demanding. Demand the best, state factually how they did, but be kind and encouraging.